Sayedra Psychology Blog & Ela Gönder https://psikoloji.sayedrablog.net/rss/author/elagonder Sayedra Psychology Blog & Ela Gönder en Copyright 2022 Sayedra Software & All Rights Reserved. AI in Therapy https://psikoloji.sayedrablog.net/ai-in-therapy https://psikoloji.sayedrablog.net/ai-in-therapy Therapy has historically relied on face-to-face interactions between clients and therapists. While traditional therapy remains valuable, it is often limited by factors such as accessibility, affordability, and therapist availability. AI offers solutions to these challenges by providing innovative tools and platforms that extend the reach of mental health services.

One of the earliest manifestations of AI in therapy was in the form of chatbots designed to simulate conversations with human therapists. These chatbots, powered by NLP algorithms, can engage in dialogue with users, offer support, and provide psychoeducation. For example, Woebot, developed by psychologists and AI researchers, delivers cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT) techniques through a conversational interface. Studies have shown that individuals interacting with Woebot experience reductions in symptoms of depression and anxiety, highlighting the potential of AI-driven interventions.

Moreover, AI enables the analysis of vast amounts of data to identify patterns and insights relevant to mental health. Through data mining techniques, AI algorithms can detect correlations between various factors and mental health outcomes, facilitating early intervention and personalized treatment approaches. For instance, predictive analytics models can predict the risk of suicide attempts based on social media posts and other online activities, enabling targeted interventions.

Silva (2023) states that Based on ten studies, a 2022 review of the effectiveness of AI in therapy concluded that using AI could greatly improve psychotherapy and lessen clinical mental health symptoms. In most studies, AI therapy was well received in terms of engagement, satisfaction, and retention rates. While more research is required, it's likely that AI could have a positive impact on expanding access to mental health care, according to a 2023 article examining AI as a psychotherapy tool. According to research from 2019 and 2020 cited in the review, AI could aid in diagnosis by analyzing behavioral patterns and providing comprehensive data access. Additionally, chatbots could imitate practitioner questions and then provide recommendations based on user input. The benefits of AI in therapy are:

Accessibility: AI-driven therapy platforms can be accessed remotely through smartphones or computers, overcoming geographical barriers, and reducing stigma associated with seeking mental health support.

Personalization: AI algorithms can tailor interventions to individual needs and preferences by analyzing user data and adjusting treatment protocols accordingly. This personalized approach enhances engagement and effectiveness.

Scalability: AI-powered therapy platforms can accommodate a large number of users simultaneously, making mental health services more scalable and cost-effective.

Early Intervention: By analyzing behavioral patterns and digital footprints, AI can detect early signs of mental health issues and provide timely interventions, potentially preventing crises or worsening symptoms.

Continuity of Care: AI-driven therapy platforms can offer continuous support and monitoring, bridging the gap between in-person therapy sessions and empowering individuals to manage their mental health autonomously.

According to Sutton (2024), even though there are considerable benefits to embracing AI in therapy, there are still challenges and problems to using tools such as ChatGPT for therapy and AI tools for therapists. The challenges are mentioned below:

  • Lack of empathy
  • Complexity of human psychology
  • Loss of patient autonomy
  • Unknown long-term effects
  • Ethical privacy concerns
  • Loss of personal touch

AI holds tremendous promise for revolutionizing mental health care by making therapy more accessible, personalized, and effective. From chatbots delivering CBT interventions to predictive analytics models identifying early signs of mental health issues, AI-driven platforms offer innovative solutions to longstanding challenges in therapy. However, responsible implementation requires addressing ethical considerations such as privacy, bias, and human oversight. By leveraging the strengths of AI while preserving the human touch in therapy, we can harness technology's transformative potential to improve mental health outcomes for individuals worldwide.

 

 

References

Silva, L. (2023, December 6). 4 AI therapy Options reviewed: Do they work? Forbes Health. https://www.forbes.com/health/mind/ai-therapy/

Sutton, J., PhD. (2024, March 4). Revolutionizing AI therapy: The Impact on Mental Health care. PositivePsychology.com. https://positivepsychology.com/ai-therapy/#hero-single

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Tue, 12 Mar 2024 18:06:26 +0300 Ela Gönder
DEPENDENT PERSONALITY DISORDER https://psikoloji.sayedrablog.net/dependent-personality-disorder https://psikoloji.sayedrablog.net/dependent-personality-disorder An overwhelming need for other people to look after you is a symptom of dependent personality disorder (DPD). The emotional and physical needs of a person with DPD are met by those who are close to them. They could be characterized by others as clinging or needy. Individuals who suffer from DPD think they are incapable of caring for oneself. Without other people's validation, they might struggle to make simple decisions like what to eat or wear. Most of the time, they are unaware of the problems with their beliefs and actions.

What are the Symptoms of DPD?

DPD patients put a lot of effort into trying to please others and develop an emotional dependence on them. In addition to having a fear of being alone, people with DPD frequently exhibit needy, clinging, and passive behaviors. Its personality disorder also frequently manifests as the following:

·       Unable to make decisions without the guidance and assurance of others, even simple ones like what to wear,

·       Reliance on a partner or friend to make decisions about where to live and work; avoidance of adult responsibilities by appearing weak and hopeless,

·       Strong feelings of helplessness or devastation after a relationship ends, as well as an intense fear of being abandoned; people with DPD frequently move straight into new relationships after a relationship ends,

·       Overly sensitive to criticism,

·       Pessimism and low self-esteem, which includes thinking they can't take care of themselves,

·       Avoidance of disagreement with people out of concern for their support or approval,

·       Incapacity to begin tasks or projects due to a lack of confidence,

·       Having trouble being alone,

·       Willingness to tolerate mistreatment and abuse from others,

·       Placing the needs of their caregivers above their own,

·       Tendency to be naive and to fantasize.

Person who has dependent personality disorder may say “I cannot care for myself.”

 Causes and Risk Factors for DPD

Dependent personality disorder does not have a clear cause, but certain situations and conditions can increase a person's risk of getting the disorder. They consist of:

·       Traumatic childhood abandonment due to war or family circumstances anxiety, depression, or personality disorders running in the family,

·       Surviving childhood abuse, including stifling parenting, withdrawn parenting, or having parents who punished individual thinking,

·       Having a chronic physical illness in childhood

Gender-Related Diagnostic Issues

            In clinical settings, dependent personality disorder has been diagnosed more frequently in females, even though some studies indicate similar prevalence rates among males and females.

Treatment for DPD

            The main dependent personality disorder treatments are usually psychotherapy or psychodynamic therapy, often cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT). Sometimes, a person might take medication to relieve underlying depression or anxiety.

How Do You Deal With Someone With DPD?

Find out as much as you can about dependent personality disorder if your loved one is showing signs of being overly needy and unable to function independently but has not yet received a DPD diagnosis. Keep an eye on your own actions and make an effort not to support their dependence or assume their responsibilities. Expressing your concern to your loved one is vital. Offer to accompany them to the first session if they would like you to, and suggest that they speak with a physician or therapist to get evaluated. Aim to avoid coming across as judgmental or harsh.

 

References

Dependent Personality Disorder | Knowledge Center. (n.d.-b). Sheppard Pratt. https://www.sheppardpratt.org/knowledge-center/condition/dependent-personality-disorder/

Dependent Personality disorder. (2006, February 1). WebMD. https://www.webmd.com/anxiety-panic/dependent-personality-disorder

Loving Someone with Dependent Personality Disorder – BrightQuest Treatment Centers. (n.d.). https://www.brightquest.com/bipolar-disorder/loving-someone-with-dependent-personality-disorder/

Professional, C. C. M. (n.d.). Dependent Personality disorder. Cleveland Clinic. https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/diseases/9783-dependent-personality-disorder

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Fri, 02 Feb 2024 01:11:37 +0300 Ela Gönder
Analysis of the Movie 'The Kid' https://psikoloji.sayedrablog.net/the-movie-of-the-kid https://psikoloji.sayedrablog.net/the-movie-of-the-kid Rusty is a sweet, but little bit geeky,  weird little kid who painfully reminds Russ of everything he hated about himself the time when he was a child-a fat, little cry-baby who was the daily bullied of the school bullies-an image Russ has worked hard to overcome and consciously forget. On the other hand, he overreacts madly when someone shows their child side and cannot stand at that situation. These reactions come from ‘criticizing parenting’.

Him and his girlfriend, Amy, generally argue about the time Russ changes suddenly and Amy mentions like that “whenever I think about his form (his natural child side comes out) you ruin everything before I even feel the joy of it (criticizing parenting reactions). Additionally, he uses critical, parental language when speaking with Miss Janet, his secretary. These are typically child-generated attitudes that are critical of their parents. for the most part, he is immature and irrationally angry. He ends the call with Miss Janet each time. He expresses his wishes, asks impulsive questions that come to mind, gets his suspicions confirmed, and then abruptly ends the call.

Other than his clients, Russell doesn't interact with many people on a daily basis. He makes it difficult for anyone to approach him. When her father unexpectedly visits her office, he questions Miss Amy about why he allowed her to enter without telling her. Even his closest relatives are inside his boundaries, but he cannot accept that. The anger he feels towards his father is very fresh, even though he hasn't seen him for years. Russell is upset with his father for a number of reasons, including the fact that he blames himself for his mother's passing, that as a child he ignored his own anxieties and vented his rage on her, that he fails to provide for her in trying times, that he treats her more like a critical parent than a loving one, and that he withholds his love, warmth, and attention. He believes he can escape everything that makes him think of his early years by staying away from family get-togethers. Furthermore, the majority of his early recollections have been lost. The only feelings still present from those memories are theirs.

Russell intends to face his past when he chooses to spend a week with Russ from the past. Naturally, things happen one after the other. He can see the exact moment his eye started to twitch when he travels back in time. His father shakes and angrily informs his son that his mother is seriously ill and will pass away shortly. If Russ doesn't stop upsetting her, they will lose him much sooner. Russ twitches an eye trying to figure out what this is all about. Russell notices the surprise and tears in his first eye twitch. "Is my mother going to die because of me?" Russ questioned. He answers the question in a compassionate voice, explaining that his father actually reacted this way because he took responsibility for Russ and could not handle it on his own. Maybe that's when he forgives his father for the first time. As an adult, he understands why his father reacted the way he did. Russell's attitude also changes when he goes back to his past. He gives natural child reactions. She has fun with Russ, time passes together, and her natural reactions from the past reemerge. He begins to respond to the same stimuli in the same way as Russ. Tics and patterned behaviours emerge. While he is an image maker, he thinks it is pointless to try to change people and put them into certain molds. Russ makes the first criticism on this issue. He says you advise people to lie.

Adler states in his theory that there is huge importance of social interest, lifestyle, sense of inferiority - striving for superiority, superiority complex, life tasks, family influence and early recollections in our lives. For social interest, when the main character who is Russ observed, he is quite weak in terms of relationship with people around. There is no close friend around him, and he is pretty distant to people. For instance, when his father tries to be close to him, he cannot close to his father and just help him materially. In addition to this, the people he communicates with most frequently are his secretary Janet and his assistant Amy. He is also in business-oriented meetings with them. Furthermore, Russ reacts to the communication that others want to initiate. As a matter of fact, it is possible to see this reaction in his communication with Deirdre, the lady sitting next to him during the plane journey. When Deidre tries to communicate with him, Russ says “What will I earn from this?” According to these, we can inference from these that Russ has no idea about having and building relationships, he just sees the material side of relationships and there is no beyond that. But after facing with his past self, he starts to realize situations which make weak her social interests. The last parts of the movie, the relationship with people, Rusty, Amy, Janet, Deidre and his dad, become stronger.

Lifestyle shaped from five to eight years old. The first experiences from child, relationship with family, birth order and other factors affect the lifestyle. Adler states four different types which are ruling, leaning, avoiding and socially useful ones. According to these, we can observe two of them in the movie which are ruling and socially useful. The main character of movie who is Russ has ruling type, Amy and Deidre has socially useful type. When the lifestyle attitudes stated by Adler as character typology are examined, it can be said that Russ is first included in the "dominant type". In the first scene of the movie, Russ cannot stand waiting for the customer before him while paying the bill at the cash register, so he pays the customer's fee and displays a rude, domineering attitude towards him. The customer perceives this as a kind gesture and thanks him. Russ then said, "I didn't do it for you, check your luggage next time." He once again shows his rude and domineering attitude with his statement. Russ becomes more of a "socially useful type" toward the end of the movie, even though he is still the "ruling type" for the majority of it. Russ confronts the bad memories of his childhood in his conversation with Rusty to face the scene where he breaks up with Deirdre. He also does this in his subsequent phone conversation with his secretary Janet when he surprises her by taking off. The sequences where he buys her the ticket and tells her that his father will help her move the house. Additionally, we can see the change of his lifestyle from Russ’ sentence, his tone of voice and body language since it becomes softer, and he started to ask kindly rather than command sentences and calmer tone voice rather than angry tone.

Inferiority and superiority are the terms which overlap each other. In his childhood, since he is bullied and beaten in the school, Russ asks for help from boxer to teach him defend himself. Russty's beating by his friends makes him feel inadequate compared to his peers. It can be said that this situation caused him to feel inferior, and that he tried to overcome this in a healthy way by learning boxing (since it is a defense sport) and that he "strived for superiority". On the other hand, Russ choose a job where he can be superior and being image consultant contributes to him to forget past himself. When he takes his child self to Amy and child version of him watches television, scratch his belly, and blend his nose, Russ directly ashamed himself. These scenes directly show both sense of inferiority and striving for superiority terms. Russ develops superiority complex to overcome with him inferiority feeling. We can observe Russ when he has cynical type of communication and easily criticize people.

Family influences has a role in the movie and there are some parts which inform us about the relationship between Russ and his father. His mother passed away when Russ was 9 years old for that reason there is not many scenes about him and his mother. In his childhood and adult life, there is an influence because of his dad. Since Russ’ dad is authoritarian and punisher, Russ develops anger towards him. On the other hand, he takes his dad a role model and adopt similar communication style. It can be seen the scenes where Ross command and yell at people.

Life tasks in the movie can be seen in the first place like that Russ has a job and really successful in it. But still Russ does not feel successful since he cannot be pilot which is his childhood dream. Even though Russ fulfils his life task, he cannot carry out his childhood dream and cannot fulfil completely and feel unsuccessful about that.

About early recollections, in the movie it can be observed that Russ forgets his memories about his childhood. He asks help from Rusty to remember. The first thing he remembered that they moved on 12 times, and he fell apart from their roof. These memories strongly affect and traumatized him. After talking his child version and remember what he went through, it can be seen that Russ repress the situations that affect him and forget them.  

If you decide to watch ‘The Kid’, you can find some things in this movie and think about yourselves as well. After all, we continue to carry with us the traces of things that everyone knows, things we don't know or have forgotten, like baggage.

 
REFERENCES

Derin, S., & Yıldız, E. Ç. (2018). An Adlerian analysis of “The Kid” movie. Eğitim Ve Bilim, 43(193). https://doi.org/10.15390/eb.2018.6803

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Sun, 07 Jan 2024 00:38:51 +0300 Ela Gönder
SELF&DISCREPANCY THEORY https://psikoloji.sayedrablog.net/self-discrepancy-theory https://psikoloji.sayedrablog.net/self-discrepancy-theory According to the self-discrepancy theory, people contrast their "actual" selves with their "ideal/ought selves," or internalized standards. Disturbances between one's "real," "ideal," and "ought," or the idealized versions of oneself shaped by life experiences, are linked to emotional discomforts such as fear, threat, and restlessness. The difference between two of these self-representations that causes unpleasant feelings is known as self-discrepancy. The theory, which was developed by Edward Tory Higgins in 1987, offers a framework for comprehending the relationship between various emotional vulnerabilities and disparities between self-representations. (Encyplodia, 2022)

The actual self, according to Encyplodia (2022), is what you think you actually possess or what you think other people think you possess. A person's fundamental self-concept is their "actual self." It is an individual's view of their own qualities, including intelligence, beauty, and so forth. In contrast, your ideal self is a representation of the qualities that you believe someone (either yourself or someone else) would like you to have; for example, it could be a representation of someone's dreams, goals, or wishes for you. These characteristics of the self that define oneself don't have to come from the real self; other people can also give them. For instance, if I think of myself as someone who is always on time, then that's just who I am. In a similar vein, if my coworkers say I'm punctual and I know they say that, then punctuality is something that I actually am. (Marouiu&Maricutoiu, 2020) We might not be fulfilling the aspirations and wishes of our significant others when our true selves don't align with their ideals of us. This can result in depressing emotions like guilt, humiliation, and fear of losing their love or approval. For instance, you might feel awkward discussing your grades with your significant other if they view you as a "A" student and you have a 2.8 GPA in your first year of college. (Libretexts, 2020)

Essentially, what drives people to transform, accomplish, and better themselves is their "ideal-self." Positive outcomes, like receiving or not receiving love, are the main focus of the ideal self-regulatory system. Also, That's who you want to be—your ideal self. The qualities you are striving for or aspire to have been present in this individual. That is your ideal self, the person you would like to see yourself as. (Cherry, 2022) Discrepancies between one's ought, and ideal selves can cause a lot of stress. For instance, a lot of working mothers have an idealized self-image that encompasses growth and success in their careers. They might also feel obligated to be a full-time mother, as part of their ought self. (Libretexts, 2020)

The "ought-self" is a representation of the qualities that you, or someone else, feels you should or ought to have. Examples of these characteristics include someone's sense of duty or responsibilities. The ought self-regulatory system concentrates on the existence or nonexistence of unfavorable results, such as being reprimanded or put on hold. Libretexts (2020) mentioned that we are not living up to the ought self that we believe others have constructed for us when our true selves don't align with what we believe other people think we should have. This can cause feelings of agitation, threatened feelings, and fear of possible punishment. For example, when your real self's goals are completely different, you may feel conflicted about what to do when you consider your parents' expectations of you, and you may be afraid of losing contact with them. Also, we can compare three concepts between each other as mentioned below:

Actual versus one's own ideals are our general sense that our goals and aspirations are not being realized causes us to feel disappointed, unsatisfied, and frustrated. Actual versus others’ ideals are shame and embarrassment are caused by the general perception that we are not fulfilling the hopes and wishes of our significant others for us.

Actual versus others’ ought are feelings of agitation, including fear of punishment, arise from our general perception that we are not fulfilling what others perceive to be our duties and obligations. Actual versus own ought are our overall perception that we are not fulfilling our responsibilities can cause us to believe that our moral standards have been violated.

While reading these concepts, you had a chance to observe yourself and can aware some things in yourselves. Throughout our whole life, we can search for our ideal self. In some part of our lives, we cannot totally catch or succeed it, and it is absolutely normal and okay! Since we are human beings, we continually explore and develop ourselves. 

References

Libretexts. (2020b, July 16). 2.2: Self-Discrepancy Theory. Social Sci LibreTexts. https://socialsci.libretexts.org/Courses/College_of_the_Canyons/COMS_246%3A_Interpersonal_Communication_(Leonard)/2%3A_Communication_and_the_Self/2.2%3A_Self-Discrepancy_Theory#:~:text=Discrepancies%20between%20the%20ideal%20and,be%20a%20full%2D%20time%20mother

MSEd, K. C. (2022, November 7). What is Self-Concept? Verywell Mind. https://www.verywellmind.com/what-is-self-concept-2795865

Self-Discrepancy theory. (2022d, October 31). https://encyclopedia.pub/entry/32029#:~:text=Developed%20by%20Edward%20Tory%20Higgins,different%20kinds%20of%20emotional%20vulnerabilities.

Self-Discrepancy theory. (2022c, October 31). https://encyclopedia.pub/entry/32029

Măroiu, C., & Maricuțoiu, L. P. (2020b). Actual self. In Springer eBooks (pp. 39–42). https://doi.org/10.1007/978-3-319-24612-3_1435

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Wed, 22 Nov 2023 01:44:36 +0300 Ela Gönder
TYPES OF LOVE https://psikoloji.sayedrablog.net/types-of-love https://psikoloji.sayedrablog.net/types-of-love The first one is Eros which is also called as romantic love or sexual passion. The name basically came from the Greek god of love and desire, and it represents romantic and passionate love. Emily (2020) indicates that people cannot control themselves and their boundaries. They get attached both physically and emotionally so they cannot get enough when they are with their partner or lover. Eros was, however, regarded by the ancient Greeks as a dangerous form of love because of the way it caused people to lose control for these reasons. In addition to these, it is mentioned that eros love does not necessarily meant to be long-lasting. “This very physical of love might last between six months to two years that depends on the relationship,” explains Cate. How to show eros (FTD, 2020): 

  •      Admiring someone’s physical body.
  •      Physical touch, such as hugging and kissing.
  •      Romantic affection.

The second type of love is Philia that is called as deep friendship or affectionate love. It came from Greek philosopher Plato (thus the idea of platonic friendships). This love can be between friends just as crucial as romantic love. “Philia means love between equals, love related with the mind, and love between people who have shared hard times,” Cate said. Anyone who has experienced philia will know that friendship love can still be powerful. Plato's concept of platonic love stems from his belief that physical attraction is not a necessary component of love. (Gulla, 2020) Basically, Philia is love without romantic attraction and it can be between friends or family members. According to FTD Blog (2020), how we can understand Philia type of love:

  •      Engage in deep conversation with a friend.
  •      Be open and trustworthy.
  •      Be supportive in hard times.

The other type of love is Ludus, and it is also called as playful love. FTD Blog (2020) says that it includes emotions, flirting and beginning stages of intimate love. Ludus, also known as the honeymoon stage of a relationship, is a childish and flirtatious form of love that is frequently experienced in the early going. This kind of love is characterized by jokes, playful intentions, and laughter between the partners. Even though it's typical of young couples, older couples who pursue this love experience happier marriages. It can be understood with these below: 

  •      Flirt and have fun-loving conversations
  •      Spend time laughing and having fun together
  •      Show off your innocent side together
  •      Bonus: Give a rose bouquet

Agape love is selfless love or universal love which means an empathetic attitude of love for everyone and anyone. This type of love is the peak level of love to offer since it is given without any expectations of receiving anything in return. Offering Agape is a choice to spread love in all situations, even those that could be harmful. Agape is a feeling; it is not a physical action. However, acts of self-love have the power to cause Agape because self-monitoring produces results. Agape can be shown with these:

  • Dedicate your life to enhancing the lives of others.
  • Stay conscious of your actions for the good of humankind.
  •  Offer your time and charity to someone in need.

There are numerous charities that serve for all humanity without any expectation like money because they only worry about our world and future. Other than that, you have to think about the times you do not even look and pass people who buy something to earn some money, does make you feel less human? Even though, you cannot work for charity, you can still do some favours to people who you do not know. Agape is pure and conscious love which makes us more human and feel optimistic about our world since we do it unconditionally.

Pragma is enduring or longstanding love which mature love that develops over time. It can be shown with putting effort into long-term and reciprocate relationships. Pragma is an exceptional form of bonded love that develops over many years. When a couple decides to put equal effort into their relationship, their love is eternal. It takes dedication and commitment to achieve "Pragma." You are "standing in love" with the person you want by your side forever, not "falling in love," with them. (FTD, 2020) Pragma is shown with:

  •      Continue to strengthen the bond of long-term relationships.
  •      Seek and show effort with your partner.
  •      Choose to work with your partner forever.

The other love type is Philautia which is self-love. This is all about self-love and self-compassion. It is needed for our own confidence and self-esteem, and it also affects how we interact with the world. More love of self-equals more love to offer to others. After all, you can't pour from an empty cup. (Regan, 2022) According to FTD, philautia can be shown with these:

  • Establish an environment that nurtures your well-being.
  • Take care of yourself like a parent would care for a child.
  • Spend time around people who support you.
  • Bonus: Use flowers to boost your mood.

Storge is familiar love which flows between parents and children or childhood friends. It can be shown with gratitude towards the people close to you. Storge is a naturally occurring love that is rooted in best friends, as well as parents and children. It's an endless love founded on emotional connection and acceptance. In the relationship between parents and children, this love comes naturally and right away. (FTD, 2020) Storge is understood with: 

  •      Sacrifice your time, self, or personal pleasures.
  •      Quickly forgive harmful actions.
  •      Share memorable and impactful moments.

Mania is the last type of love and it is also known as obsessive love. Mania type is obsessiveness or madness over a love partner. Codependency, which results in unwanted possessiveness or jealousy, is the result. The majority of cases of obsessive love are found in couples who have unequal amounts of love for one another. Mania is primarily brought on by an imbalance between Eros and Ludus. Obsessive love can be harmful, but it can also be avoided by having healthy levels of playful and romantic love. (FTD, 2020) Avoid from mania can be possible with these:

  • Recognize obsessive or possessive behavior before acting upon it.
  • Focus on yourself more versus another person.
  • Put trust into your relationships.

In conclusion, there are different types of love that we can feel. It can be for ourselves, friends and families, lovers with different approaches, other people even we do not know and so more. These terms make easier to understand and describe our feelings in a deep way. Hope that while reading this, you can find some things in yourself. After all, love will save the world…

 

 

 

 

 

 

References

Gulla, E. (2020, December 14). 8 different types of love explained. Cosmopolitan. https://www.cosmopolitan.com/uk/love-sex/relationships/a34896557/types-of-love/

mindbodygreen. (2022, December 28). From Eros To Philia, Here Are 8 Different Types Of Love. Mindbodygreen. https://www.mindbodygreen.com/articles/types-of-love

Team, F. (1970, January 20). The 8 different types of love + The perfect combo for you | FTD. FTD Blog. https://www.ftd.com/blog/types-of-love

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Tue, 31 Oct 2023 20:18:33 +0300 Ela Gönder
PARENTING STYLES https://psikoloji.sayedrablog.net/parenting-styles https://psikoloji.sayedrablog.net/parenting-styles  The first one is authoritarian parenting which is about being strict. Their focus is mostly obedience. They are known for saying “Because I said so.” Authoritarian parents’ behaviors are hostile and aggressive and so they cannot think and evaluate their child’s future in more proper ways. Since these parents are strict and aggressive, their children may become liars to escape punishment and mostly they tend to hide some things from their parents. Authoritarian parents’ children may have low self-esteem and also, they can think that their opinions are not important since their parents do not look like they care about their children. According to Baumrind, these parents: 

• Don't promote verbal back-and-forth.

• Expect that their commands will be followed without question and are "obedience- and status-oriented."

• Have a tendency to use other forms of punishment, such as withholding affection or humiliating their kids, to control them.

• In general, avoid attempting to justify the necessity of rules.

There are some statements of authoritarian parents. When you read it and strongly agree with these, you have to go over again your parenting style.  (Dewar, 2018)

• I yell at my child in a fit of rage.

• I punish my child by withholding affectionate words.

• When the kid misbehaves, I scream or shout.

In short, being authoritarian parent might have huge negative effect on children’s development in all aspects.

The second style is authoritative parenting. These parents have a balance between having rules and taking care their children’s opinions. Authoritative parents’ children are validated by their family so that they can feel that their opinions and feelings are seen. These parents use reinforce to increase positive behavior of their children so it is stated that their children mostly become responsible adults in their future life. In addition to all of these, children who raised by authoritative parents have a chance to be happier and more successful. The feeling of being heard and seen affects self-confidence and development of children. For example, a firm but loving parent might say, "We're going to grandma's house now, so please put on your shoes." Schoonover continues, "If that doesn't happen, an authoritative parent might say the child will be in time-out if they don't follow the rule." (Wisner, 2022)

Permissive parenting is the other type of parenting styles. They are mostly interested in setting rules but not enforcing them. These parents are forgiving and not so much care about poor choices or bad behavior. They generally have an attitude by saying “Kids will be kids.” Permissive parents’ children have problems academically since they do not much care about rules and it can cause them not to be successful in their school life. On the other hand, they might have health problems since permissive parents do not limit what they eat such as unhealthy foods, or do not encourage their kids to exercise or having healthy sleep habits. All of the harmful behaviors of permissive parents largely affect children life and it can make them unhealthy, sad, and so more. There are some examples of permissive parents do to their children:

• Permitting your child to watch TV despite your assurance that they may only do so after finishing their assignment.

• Allowing your child to complete chores whenever they feel like it and refraining from reprimanding them when they put them off or forget to do them.

• Granting their requests merely because they are sobbing.

• Permissive parenting has the following negative effects as well:

• Lack of self-control and self-discipline; low self-esteem; a sense of entitlement; being careless and unreliable; and a lack of boundaries

The last one is uninvolved parenting. These parents mostly do not ask their children about their school, homework, friends and what they through in their life. In fact, they hardly know where their child is or who they are with. Uninvolved parents’ child mostly tend not to perform well academically and also struggle with confidence problems with themselves. Since they do not know much about development of children, they cannot behave properly to their child. Some common patterns of behavior for uninvolved parents. (Cherry, 2023)

• Display emotional distance toward their kids

• Restrict interactions with their kids because they're too stressed out from their own issues.

• Offer scant or no supervision.

• Place few or no demands or expectations on behavior.

• Don't show their kids much warmth, love, or affection.

• Skip parent-teacher conferences and school events

Uninvolved parents have a variety of negative effects, some of which are listed below:

• Feel worried or stressed as a result of the absence of family support.

• Act emotionally distant.

• Aversion to becoming reliant on others.

• Possess a higher propensity for substance abuse.

• Must learn how to support themselves.

• Display more delinquency while they are teenagers.

When we look at all these parenting styles, we can obviously see the thing is that individual's life is largely affected by families and how they behave to their children, especially from childhood to the end of adolescence. Therefore, we can say that it is inevitable that these behavioral styles will affect us throughout our lives. Remember, “The basis of everything is family.”

 

References

Dewar, G. (2021b). The authoritarian parenting style: What does it look like? PARENTING SCIENCE. https://parentingscience.com/authoritarian-parenting-style/#:~:text=For%20instance%2C%20parents%20are%20MORE,by%20withholding%20expressions%20of%20affection

Lcsw, A. M. (2022). The 4 types of parenting styles and how kids are affected. Verywell Family. https://www.verywellfamily.com/types-of-parenting-styles-1095045

Mcvoteam. (2021). What is Permissive Parenting and How does it affect your child? Brightside Academy Ohio. https://brightsideohio.com/permissive-parenting-style/#:~:text=Here%20are%20some%20of%20the%20examples%20permissive%20parents%20do%20to%20their%20children.&text=Letting%20your%20child%20do%20chores,just%20because%20they%20are%20crying.

MSEd, K. C. (2023). Characteristics and effects of an uninvolved parenting style. Verywell Mind. https://www.verywellmind.com/what-is-uninvolved-parenting-2794958

MSEd, K. C. (2023b). Characteristics and effects of an uninvolved parenting style. Verywell Mind. https://www.verywellmind.com/what-is-uninvolved-parenting-2794958

Wisner, W. (2022). What is authoritative parenting?. Verywell family. https://www.verywellfamily.com/what-is-authoritative-parenting-5270916#:~:text=For%20example%2C%20an%20authoritative%20parent,to%20the%20rule%2C%20Schoonover%20adds.

 

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